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For when nothing is wrong but nothing feels right anymore.

It was the Summer of 2015 when I sat across my best friend Sana as she spoke about the love of her life.

There was a glint in her eye, the warm air that touched her skin lit up like a halo, and I could tell from her voice that her heart was very full.

Then as relationships often go, and as time went on — work, commitments and daily life took center-stage and the love of her life became more of a guest appearance in our conversations.

It had already been over a month at the point when I…

Yesterday’s indestructible is today’s indistractable.

The superpowers of our time are pretty underwhelming.

Which is really saying a lot when our villains are the same as those from 2500 years ago when Plato first described “Akrasia”.

While Akrasia means to do something against your better judgement, such as procrastinating or failing to exercise self-control when you are aware of the consequences — I feel 2500 years ago people had more leeway.

Now there is no excuse for not knowing how to break a procrastination spell. There is no philosopher or scholar you have to hunt down in a desert to answer your questions.

We have…

Here’s what’s killing your connection and how you can save it.

In freshman year of college, I was best friends with a guy whose superpower was that he could make friends with anyone.

This depended heavily on his capacity to start conversations and sustain the other party’s interest, no matter who they were. He wasn’t the smartest kid in the room, didn’t come with designer label clothes, crazy talents, or threw money around for it — he was just the simplest dude who seemed confident in himself.

Being able to communicate effectively with others is an invaluable life-skill. …

To get your life back on track, anti-goals will serve as guardrails.

Most of us when asked about our future goals have an endless list we could read from for days.

Why is it then that greatness is touched by only a select few? What makes the top 8% succeed while 92% of us can’t even achieve our New Year’s resolutions?

The answer to that is in the first step you take towards any goal. If you conquer the first step which is initiating a task, then you should have no trouble fulfilling your tailor-made destiny.

Sadly—no lack of motivation, no failure to exercise will-power, and no executive-dysfunction plagues us worse than…

One small habit could change your savings game for good.

Consider yourself, with zero credit card debt or college loans — pulling three times your weight at work yet not knowing the reason you’re unable to invest money. Nor able to identify the leaks that are causing all your hard-earned money to go down the drain.

This isn’t just a hypothetical scenario; it was my friend’s dilemma just a few months ago.

My best friend Sana has been working two jobs since high school — and that’s beside the very frequent freelancing project she picks up now and then. …

#3 Superman was an alien, and everyone loved him.

At the preliminary stages of human existence, inclusivity was the key to survival. But now that we no longer fear being mauled by bears when walking alone in public — inclusivity has become a privilege. However, like most super-organisms, humans are still wired to thrive in communities. So it’s no surprise the devastating effects being an outsider can have on our brain sometimes.

The good news is that since inclusivity is not a necessity anymore — there are more of us on the outside than ever before. Makes it a little less lonely, doesn’t it?

Most people spend their entire…

5 questions from psychology to help you break the unhappiness cycle.

Last month I went to the beach with my friend Rayyan who is an Economics Major. We were talking about how some couples have chemistry even after decades of togetherness, while others seem like they have zero conversations when they’re left alone by themselves.

He said something in that discussion that made me think hard. He said in business investments, he asks this all the time before pulling the plug on projects: “It all comes down to whether you really love each other or if it’s the sunk-cost fallacy keeping you together.”

What this means is that after spending a…

“The present is theirs; the future, for which I really worked, is mine.”

I have hero-worshiped Tesla all my life. In fact, he was the Justin Timberlake to my nerdy teenaged-girl and I’m still not ashamed of it.

Nikola Tesla was really a Serbian-American engineer, inventor and futurist whose name mostly comes up with respect to his contributions in the modern electric supply. But before he was any of these things, he was a boy whose father was an orthodox christian priest and wanted him to adopt the same profession.

At 17, Tesla suddenly fell severely sick with barely any hopes of recovering. Tesla’s father promised him that if he got better, he…

Even second-hand wisdom could take years off your “struggle period”.

Of the many things you’ll run low on as you go through life — lost time stings the most. Time exists as an even more powerful resource when you’re a woman in the field of medicine so I know exactly how you feel.

That said, when certain experiences help you grow through them, it can make even the shittiest ones worthwhile. Because with personal growth, comes wisdom. Wisdom leads to less recurrent mistakes. More forward-thinking, more efficient living. Less lost time in the future.

Over the past years, I have learnt many lessons in my personal and professional life that…

Research says you must escape from this quicksand if you want to be happier.

Consider this. On a slow weekend night, you decide to get takeaway from your favorite restaurant to treat yourself though you already have leftovers from what you made for lunch. When the food finally arrives it’s really off. Now you could proceed ahead in two ways. Either you could toss out the takeaway and just eat what you had for lunch. Or you could suck it up and eat what you ordered to break-even the cost. But why would anyone commit to a mistake and increase their suffering?

Regardless, if you think you’re part of the second lot, I have…

Aamna I. Rizvi

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